Friday, June 19, 2009
How to raise a bright child
Well, the parents of a bright child or the gifted child are rarely aware of their child's extraordinary abilities. Parents just like teachers, too, need to recognize the giftedness of a particular child. Giftedness comes in two main categories first is the moderately gifted child whose IQ level is below 180 while those who come under the highly gifted category are those who have IQ above 180.
Moderately gifted children are those are clever at school, they are usually teacher's favourite.
However, highly gifted children are censured by the teachers. The highly gifted students are bright, smart and very creative in nature. These children are much more sensitive than the moderately gifted children. They are very well aware of all kinds of sensitive issues related to environment, nation, terrorism and other similar threats. They have heightened sense of belonging to their surroundings. Children who are highly gifted face trouble at making friends, they are resentful while taking orders from teachers or elders.
This does not equate with those children who are pampered in a more than required amount. Highly gifted children are more than often voracious readers, they understand complicated subjects easily and may dislike too easy to do sums or problems. They understand and learn languages quickly.
Highly gifted children are also good at judging human characters irrespective of their age. They are apt at comprehending non- verbal cues and easily select or reject a person. They also show good decision making abilities due to fast mental processing. At school, they are usually known as highly interrogative students or as withdrawn students. They seek adult company rather than making friends with the children of their own age. Highly gifted children are teased at school for their high level of thinking.
Many times it happens that parents who have mischievous or disobedient average children tend to think that their children are highly gifted. On the other hand, the parents who actually have children who are highly gifted tend to treat their children as mischievous or disobedient.
Non-encouraging treatment from their parents results in lack of confidence and over-sensitiveness in these children. They begin to feel guilty about their own thoughtful, insightful thinking and about their innovative methods of studying. Highly gifted children are usually self- motivated in nature. They move forward in life without getting intermediated by other's opinion of themselves.
But more than usual these children can slip into depression if parents fail to understand them.
They are different than the rest, one among one million children. This gives them alienated feeling at times if they are not properly handled by the parents. Albert Einstein was known as a subnormal child in school. He was exceptionally intelligent in physics and math.
He showed originality of thought and concept by using his own formulas for solving mathematical or physics problems. But he received criticism instead of praise from his teachers for his inventive problem solving methods.
His mother who was an ordinary washerwoman regretted about having such a child. As a four year old child, he threw a chair at his teacher; this spoiled his reputation at school. Highly gifted children have high number of gyri and sulci on their brain. This is what makes them original thinkers, writers, artists, actors, musicians or scientists.
Highly gifted children have an ocean full of knowledge. They are creatively inclined and have a high grasping power. They show unique abilities as children, for e.g. a highly creatively gifted girl might direct and write plays as well as act in them at the age of four. Her vocabulary may by far exceed the others of her age. Highly creatively gifted children tend to study every subject creatively, innovatively and insightfully.
They usually face problems at schools especially with their teachers who teach subjects in square patterns. They lose interest in school and as a result of this they receive low grades. Low grades become a matter of concern to the parents who are ignorant of their special children. Scolding and censuring makes them more withdrawn, sometimes even liars and scattered children who are uncertain about their future.
Parents must understand and enhance such a child's special qualities rather than trying to mould him or her according to their own desire. This will make them Einsteins of their own fields and role models to the world. It is in our hands to shape the future of our children by not disturbing their sensitive and superbly intelligent mind.
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Author: Nikita Gharat ** Market Place Premier Writer