I have seen and studied various charts to learn about the time of meeting that "special person". My findings have told me that in such meetings most important point is the "vertex".
When your vertex is conjunct or opposed by any personal planet like the Sun, Moon you get a special person in your life.
I don't feel vertex contacts to Venus or mars have much do to with meeting the significant other. Especially not if the mars or Venus of the concerned person happens to fall in his/her 10th house. They might try to bring in professional energy, vanity or public recognition in your life. But they might not be able to touch your hearts. However, they might consider you to be a valuable love interest if your vertex falls in your 5th house.
On the contrary, they might be interested in speaking with you but you may not express interest since they may be in your professional sphere or appear to be more corporate to you. However, they might be somehow enchanted to see you. Vertex is about a bolt out of the blue. It shakes you up when it gets activated. It makes the impossible happen.
So, getting back to the topic Sun for a woman is the husband while moon for the man is wife.